A sibling eulogy carries a specific kind of authority: you likely knew them longer than almost anyone else in the room. Use that — a childhood detail, a family shorthand only the two of you shared — to bring something no one else could have offered.
An example, in this voice
We shared a room until I was eleven, and we had a rule, invented by her, that whoever woke up first had to report the weather to the other one before either of us was allowed out of bed. I have lived in four cities since then and I still, out of habit, check the window first thing every morning like there's someone waiting on the report. There isn't, now. I'm going to keep checking anyway, because some habits are just how you keep a person in the room.
Common questions
- What if my sibling and I had a difficult relationship?
- You can write something true and respectful without pretending the relationship was simple. Many people focus on a single genuine moment of connection, even a small one, rather than trying to summarize the whole relationship.
- Should I mention our parents or other family in the eulogy?
- A brief mention is fine, especially if it shows something true about your sibling's role in the family, but keep the focus on them rather than turning it into a family history.